Living With Spirits - A guide to Co-existing with Ghosts and Entities in your Home

Have you experienced unexplained phenomena in your home? Do you suspect you might have an entity sharing your space? Before you whip out the sage, or the Ouija Board, let's talk about a few things.

Oftentimes, our home or land has a lot of history. For instance, my last home was an old orange grove office in the early 1940s. And the land itself was the site of two prominent massacres: The St. Johns River Massacre and The Seminole Wars. So, it's likely not surprising when I tell you that my home boasted a lot of entities. And couple that with my spiritual practice, there were "a lot a lot" of entities there. My current home, which we recently moved to, is proving to have a few interesting characters, which didn't immediately make themselves known. But, when I moved in I immediately began leaving offerings, acknowledging anyone or thing who may be here, and of course my spiritual rituals and spell work. As time has passed, there are two specific beings who have made it quite clear they are here. On one occasion, our doorbell (which is an old set up, not modern wifi tech) rang on and off for an entire day before I had to disconnect it. And while Scrying, I have seen quite clearly a rather unsettling entity clear as day in the reflection. Usually somewhere behind me. My spirit boxes and other means of communication have also reflected this.

Of course, to some who read this I probably seem outright mad. However, I have always rather enjoyed the presence and company of those on the other side of the veil. But I am more than aware that not everyone would share the same sentiments. When someone suspects their home is occupied (which is different from "haunted"), they usually jump right into finding ways to get rid of them. But, hear me out. Imagine you worked your whole life to build an entire homestead that you loved dearly, and then you pass and you're left to exist there. Watching family after family live and grow there, with no way to communicate with them. And nobody can communicate with you. Holidays, birthdays, tragedies. It's probably a very sad way to exist. What if you were traveling and met your demise in the very spot a home was built. You were left to linger alone, without anyone familiar to you. And are stuck in a loop of existing in a space that is occupied by person after person, structure after structure.

I tend to have a great deal of empathy for all entities and spirits. The "good" ones, as well as the perceived "bad" ones. And I coexist quite well with all of them. Of course, there are situations where we have an uninvited guest. Perhaps a residual from a Ritual, or just passing through. And those particular characters decide to be overtly aggressive, or disruptive. They of course must go. However, as a whole I accept that it isn't them living in my home. It's me living in theirs. I have no desire to make things harder for them, and while I do always offer an option to cross over, some actually don't want to do that.

There are ways to live peacefully with unseen housemates. And even honor them, make them more comfortable, and include them in your day to day life. After all, if they are here we may as well acknowledge that. And, there is always the potential that they become disruptive in an attempt to get your attention. While that is often misinterpreted as poltergeists or haunting, it's more likely they are trying to figure out how to let you know they are there. And sometimes, they aren't exactly "demure" about it. So, I am of the belief it is always a really good idea to make small efforts to keep the peace and prevent any issues. As well as building a good rapport with your spirit friends.

Here are some of the things I do in my own home to facilitate everyone:

Keep A Clean Home

Believe it or not, many spirits and entities get as overwhelmed as you do with clutter. And some Mediums believe that clutter actually attracts "darker" and more problematic visitors. Some of these types can be quite malevolent! Try to keep a mindset that you have company coming to stay at all times. Your home certainly doesn't need to be in pristine order, but a weekly declutter and dust will make everyone happier. This should really matter if you know some history and your house friend was a previous owner. It might make their eyes twitch to see a constant state of disarray in what was once their pride and joy. So, keep that in mind.

Make It a Habit to Say Hello

Even if you do not possess any ability to hear or see them for a nice conversation, they can definitely hear and see you. And probably understand your limitations. So, a little one-sided small talk will mean a lot to them. Do you ever talk to yourself? Maybe you aren't talking to yourself at all. Maybe you're having a conversation you just didn't understand was happening at the time. I always say good morning, goodnight and greetings when I arrive home. Just to everyone in general, living or otherwise.

Don't Make a Habit of Ghost Hunting

I sometimes use a spirit box (traditional or digital), as well as "ghost balls" to communicate. And I do the occasional talking with spirits kind of content. However, day to day I do not feel it's fair or ethical to always attempt to record and document every incident. Not only is it probably offensive to them, or at the least very annoying. It can actually get dangerous. Do you ever wonder why there is so much malevolent activity in famous ghost houses that are frequented by tourists and investigators? It's always been my opinion that the constant, fearful energy that passes through those places strengthens entities to achieve bigger, louder and more violent behaviors. And some phenomena, like scratches, are more a result of unrestrained energy and frustration with constant harassment. Actually, I usually assume that is the case before I ever blame an injury or disruptive behaviors on an ill intention.

Keep Energy Balanced

Sage doesn't scare away ghosts. What it does do is cleanse and level out a home. Smudging your home weekly as a routine and also after negative events (after an illness, argument etc) can keep things peaceful. And it can also make your space less ideal for the types of darker things you likely don't want there.

Host Music Hours

When you leave for the day, maybe leave gentle or relaxed music playing. And, if you're into really jamming out, play a fun list of songs while you clean. Talk to them about the bands. It doesn't have to be a lot. Just say "let's listen to Screamin' Jay Hawkins!" Or point out your favorite songs. Everybody likes music!

Leave Offerings

Spirits like gifts, too. You can set up a small, dedicated place for them. Here you can leave fresh flowers, an occasional small bowl of sugar, or even tobacco. Many of them actually very much appreciate anything sweet. Older entities seem to really, really appreciate loose tobacco. And some believe that they very much enjoy paper cut outs of things they can no longer physically touch or taste. Like drawing a doll, or maybe a cat, or even a smoking pipe on paper and cutting it to shape. You can even take it a step further and include them in special occasions or holidays. Decorating their space and leaving small wrapped gifts. Nobody thinks it's strange when we do it at the cemetery, so why not at home?

Take Time To Get To Know Them

If possible, try to find out the full history of your home and who lived there before you. This way you can share your discoveries with them. It doesn't really have to be about them as an individual. Talk about historical dates for your area, big community events (like a hundreds of years old annual town tradition) they might remember. Try to limit talk of terrible events, like the ones I mentioned have happened in my area. I'm sure I wouldn't want to be reminded of the darkest times of my living existence.

Overall, be sure to speak to them respectfully. That also means not talking to them like a baby, or using an overtly empathetic tone. And if you do have something in your space that is harming anyone or causing seriously negative issues, please seek out a Medium or someone who has experience to help you. While the majority are harmless, some are definitely not. And it's better to address that sooner, rather than later.

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Be Blessed,
Dena

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